{Pregnancy treat: Double Chocolate Chip Frap with Caramel. Sans coffee.}Sometimes my mind runs off with my sanity.
In such cases, I call for a little retail and food therapy.
It doesn't help sort the thoughts any, but it makes me feel wonderful.
Until, I pack on that 5 pounds, that is. Or maybe that is related to this baby growing inside me.
I may never know.
I have been thinking about some untidy relationships in my life.
And how their untidiness is starting to effect me.
I don't want it to but it is creeping it's way in.
I'm afraid to let the Oreo's handle this one.
And I know my husband wouldn't want me to let Target handle it either.
Looks like I'm going in solo. ;)
What do you do to help sort the untidy relationships in your life?
And tell me, how do you know when it's time to let it go?
In such cases, I call for a little retail and food therapy.
It doesn't help sort the thoughts any, but it makes me feel wonderful.
Until, I pack on that 5 pounds, that is. Or maybe that is related to this baby growing inside me.
I may never know.
I have been thinking about some untidy relationships in my life.
And how their untidiness is starting to effect me.
I don't want it to but it is creeping it's way in.
I'm afraid to let the Oreo's handle this one.
And I know my husband wouldn't want me to let Target handle it either.
Looks like I'm going in solo. ;)
What do you do to help sort the untidy relationships in your life?
And tell me, how do you know when it's time to let it go?
6 Splendid Notes:
I am a first time commenter, but have been reading for a while. Congrats on the pregnancy. I am due in thanksgiving. Anyway, my two cents? With the relationship? I just ended a friendship with someone who had been my friend for about ten years. It was a hard decision. But our lives are totally different. We were on two different paths in life. While that can work, she wasnt willing to allow the change help our friendship grow. I am a mother and a wife. She isnt. She still wanted the life we had when we were both singld. Late nights, parties and the like. Anyway, now that this comment is a novel... Trust your instint. The best quote i ever heard was "if there was never change, there would be no butterflies".
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when plans go ignored, when texts go ignored and when things start to get fake. That recently happened to me and my "best friend" from 1st grade. She fell off the world and never called me on my bday and didnt congratulate me on my engagement..that REALLY upset me cause she's known i've wanted to get married and have babies for years!
I was thinking about this myself recently. I don't have any particularly untidy relationships any longer but I did and I didn't realize how untidy they were until they were over. It's hard to let go of people. As women, we always want to hold on to people and have faith in the future of the relationships we've invested in.
So, just a few days ago, I was stuck in Pep Boys FOREVER waiting for my brakes to be checked and I came across this article from Woman's Day:
http://www.womansday.com/Articles/Sex-Relationships/Friendship/Letting-Go-of-a-Friendship.html
There were several other great articles on other tough relationships and when to let go (and how to). I can't say I agree with everything, but there were some great points.
Here's the link:
http://find.womansday.com/search/letting%20go%20of%20relationships
PS - thank you for being so incredibly open on your blog. You don't know me at all but you feel like a friend. I absolutely adore the way you describe things. I have cried tears of sorrow and joy for you and your sweet family. I think I said it already, but congrats, congrats, congrats on baby. I am thrilled for you and wish you the best of everything!
oh gosh. I'm lame at this one. I'm such a pushover. Recently I've been going to therapy (i posted recently if you saw) and now I'm realizing just how much "being the victum" is making me let ppeople push me around. And now that I'm aware of it, I'm turning opposite. Like a student the other day asked me if she could use my cell phone to make a long distance call and I was SOOO annoyed wheras I normally would just do it cuz someone said. Anyway, now that you know I'm not the expert, here are my thoughts. Some relationships you can't get rid of. Unfortunately. Family, neighbors, whoever. But you DO have your say. You can limit time, speak up when they treat you unkindly. As far as the relationships you can control, if it's bugging you, efecting your health, or you think about it a lot throughout the day, I would say that's a good indication to cut the ties! :) good luck! It's a sucky decision!
Oh Alexa, this post speaks right to my heart. This year I ended a friendship with a very close friend. I had always known that she was a negative person and she would vent it out to me (a little venting is fine but it got to a point that it was constant and never ending). And then, I just couldnt take it anymore. I learned alot from this (it was very traumatic for me) and these are MY red flags that show me the relationship is not working and I need to distance myself: 1) when you are a "crutch" for that person. 2) when you feel you can't be honest with that person for fear she/he will lash out at you 3) when he/she becomes jealous of other relationships 4) and if that
person has a NEGATIVE influence on you {I would always feel like there was a black cloud over me after i finished talking to this person) then it's time to let it go.
because let me tell you, it WILL creep in eventually. trust your instinct. stay strong and good luck :I
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